Why Can’t I Hear my Intuition?

I’ve been teaching my tarot course to a group for the first time ever. Before this I only taught one-on-one but it’s so nice to see how people learn in a group and I have been loving it.

One of the consistent questions that comes up very often is “Why can’t I hear my intuition?”.  Maybe you’ve said something like that yourself.  Or maybe you’ve looked at a professional reader and wondered how they do it.  How do they hear or see something?

Our instinct is always to try harder.  More effort will produce results.  If I just think harder, if I just meditate harder, if I just keep trying, I will make my intuition work by sheer force of will. 

Unfortunately this is the exact behavior that makes it so hard to hear our intuition.

We are conditioned to that.  We grow up believing hard work pays off and if we haven’t seen the results we want then we should just work harder.  It’s okay that our first instinct is to go to our trained behavior.

The truth is that it’s less effort that actually helps.  I think prayer is us asking a question to God, Source, The Universe, your higher self  (pick your fave) and meditation is listening for the answer.  Intuition is what happens in the middle.  When we start to relax, we are able to hear little impulses or messages coming through.

Our only job is to notice what comes up.

The reason it’s so hard for us to hear our intuition is because we are trained to ignore it.  We are trained from the time we are very young to outsource our wisdom.  We go to school and church. We learn from our parents.  All of that is really important.  What we miss out on is the ability to learn and experiment with what is best for us.  We aren’t taught to listen and to hear our own intuition.

I fully believe we can return to this inner hearing with a little guidance and practice.  So often what I’m doing in a tarot or Reiki session is validating what a client already knows intuitively.  They just need to hear someone confirm it so they don’t feel crazy.

If you think that you can’t hear your intuition, I promise that it doesn’t mean that you don’t have it or that it’s not talking to you. 

In fact, I bet I can prove it to you right now.  We are most aware of our intuition when it is trying to keep us safe.  So I bet you have had an experience that you couldn’t explain that goes something like this: You meet someone for the first time and just had a bad feeling about them right away. You don’t know anything about them but something just feels “off”.  They are perfectly nice to you and seem personable and normal. You immediately ignore it and just assume you’re being judgemental or jealous.

And what happens when we get those impulses? We start explaining them away.  Maybe I just saw something that looked off. Maybe it was a coincidence. Our brains are lazy and they want to logically explain things that don’t make sense away.

Maybe you start a friendship or relationship with that person only to find out, a short time later that they are actually manipulative or a liar, or even violent.  Then you blame yourself, for not knowing better because you had that “off” feeling early on and wouldn’t trust it.

So then we end up right back where we started – confused, not trusting our intuition, or just plain thinking we don’t have it.  And the cycle continues until we start to interrupt it and train ourselves to listen to and question those intuitive impulses.


This month I am opening the doors again to my High Priestess Embodiment Workshop that is a training entirely on how to connect to your intuition.  The High Priestess is the card that reminds us of our ability to connect to our intuition in any moment to find what’s best for us.  This workshop is entirely virtual and combines lecture, meditation, journaling and a mini yoga practice to help you get in touch with your own intuition.  You don’t need any tarot training or understanding as this is an intuition workshop.  If you are interested in learning more you can sign up for the waitlist here to be the first to know when the doors open.