How to Find the Right Spiritual Practitioner for You

A couple months ago, I had my first appointment that didn’t go so well. I’m fortunate that this is really the first time this has happened since I have been doing this work. 

It was all due to a communication issue.  The client was under the impression that because I’m a medium, I would bring mediumship into everything that I do.

She had come in for a 2020 Year Ahead Tarot Session and was disappointed that I wasn’t connecting with her loved ones in spirit.  On my website I keep these offerings separate and I use specific language for each. In tarot I’m reading the clients energy and giving them insight on their life and struggles that come up for them.  (This is not the case for all readers but this is how it works for me).

That was not what this client wanted.  She was very frustrated that I was not giving her a mediumship reading, despite the fact that she did not book a mediumship reading.  About twenty minutes in, she stopped the session and said she really didn’t feel like it was connecting the way she wanted so I asked for some clarification on what she meant.

Did she feel that I wasn’t accurately getting a picture of her situation?  No.  

She said she knew what I told her was what was going on, and it made sense that she knew she needed to work on those things. Everything I had told her was accurate and connected with her current circumstances.  But she was under the impression that because I’m a medium I would be connecting to spirit and bringing through messages because that’s what she experienced when she went to another reader. I reiterated what I always say at the beginning of my sessions that we all read a little bit differently, but that this type of reading is meant to read her energy, not her loved ones in spirit.

So I made what I thought was a good business decision, I stopped the session.  I told her that maybe we just weren’t a good fit, and told her I would refund her payment and I did so as soon as she left.

That is a violation of my no refund policy but I wanted to do right by her, and even though I had already invested my time and energy.  As a new business owner it was more important for me to have someone leave happy even if they didn’t get what they want, than finish a reading that they weren’t receptive to and try to force it.

I think this is one of the hardest things as a reader.  You aren’t going to be everyone’s cup of tea. You have to try not to take it personally.

I wanted to talk about this today to bring up a few things.  

First of all, if you are a reader or any kind or a healer, really try to take your ego out of your work.  When you care so much and love what you do, it can be easy to take things very personally. Sometimes you will have readings that are lights out.  You will feel super connected and super in sync with your client.

Other times clients come in with very real pain that is consuming them and with a desire to hear a specific thing.  They might be disappointed when they don’t get the exact message they wanted out of the session and while this is disappointing for both client and reader, it’s not personal.  It will feel personal, but it’s not.

And then there are clients who won’t be satisfied no matter what you do.  You also have to make peace with that as well.

For example, this same client felt a need, after I had apologized for the misunderstanding about what service she was purchasing and sent her a full refund, to still send me another email insulting my space, my reading style, and my tarot cards and explained how because I was a medium she “would expect to see those skills on display” .  She also implied that because she felt my fees were high, she felt entitled to that.

It was a lesson to me on boundaries.  I let her cross one boundary by giving her the refund, and so she felt entitled to more. You have probably experienced this with boundaries in your own life.  If you give someone an inch, they feel entitled to a mile.

It’s been a huge gift for me to be able to take my ego out of the equation.  I am in charge of providing the reading or healing session, translating what I see and hear, and giving my full attention, compassion, and concentration to my clients.  But I am not responsible for their outcome.

So often with spiritual work, clients come in thinking that a practitioner is required to give them what they want.  They are focused entirely on the outcome they want. But your job as a practitioner is to provide the space for them, to provide a healing environment, to listen to their concerns, and provide them with what insights you have. You have an obligation to give them what they need, which may not be entirely in alignment with what they want.

I think of it like going to the doctor, you can give the client the medicine, but it’s up to them to take it.  Not every client is going to be ready to do what they have to in order to grow. Not every client is going to be ready to hear what you have to say.  Part of being a spiritual practitioner, maybe the hardest part, is learning to be okay with that.  

This whole experience reminded me how important it is as a service provider to have clear service descriptions and a clear cancellation and refund policy.  Setting expectations for clients is paramount.  

It is also the responsibility for the client to do their research and be sure that they know what they are purchasing and that they approach readings with an open mind.

So here are my pointers for finding the right practitioner:

Know Your Goal

Whenever you are seeking a service, you should be sure you know what your ultimate goal is.  You should be sure that the service that you are purchasing fulfills that goal and that you understand what you are buying.  I am always happy to answer questions or direct clients towards the service that is more in line with their goals and almost every reader I know, does this regularly. 

It’s in the readers best interest to make sure that the client is set up for success.  That’s just good business.


Make Sure You Understand that Practitioners Philosophy and Limitations

I have very specific language on my page about what service is good for which type of issue.  I also have a breakdown of my philosophy towards reading and healing in my “About Me” section.  I list what I will and won’t read on because there are a lot of legalities, especially in Pennsylvania, about what you can and can’t give advice on.  I state clearly that I am not legal, financial, or medical council and this type of work is not included in any of my services.

I also have specific language in my terms and conditions of my services about how I don’t provide refunds, and that while I will give guidance on topics ultimately, my clients have free will. 

You should be wary of any reader who acts as though they have all the answers, rather than empowering you to get your own answers or validating what you already intuitively know.  Do not give your power away to someone else.

Get a Personal Referral

I am also a big believer in getting and giving personal referrals for any spiritual work.  My business is almost exclusively personal referrals, and I love it because it sets clients up for success and I know that the people coming in know exactly what to expect.

I also only see other practitioners that I know personally, have been referred to, or that I have seen how they provide their readings to other people via their website or a podcast.

This will give you a clear expectation of how the reading works, if they have the type of style that you would find helpful, and what kind of questions or prep work you might need to do ahead of time.

I hope that sets all of you up for your best experience with your next intuitive or healing session. 

If you are a practitioner, I hope it validates your experience and inspires you to stay firm with your boundaries.  Healthy boundaries help you to feel safe as a practitioner, and to build your business without feeling burned out or resentful of the work that you love so much.  

If you haven’t taken the time to set clear boundaries, don’t beat yourself up, make the time this week to do it.  It doesn’t take very long and it only requires a bit of clarifying language on your website or in your literature.  Take the time now to invest in yourself and your business. It only takes a few minutes to do the research and set yourself up for success.

© Sheila Masterson 2020 All Rights Reserved

When Intuition Leads You Wrong…

Ruby Beach, Olympic National Park , WA

There’s this idea out there that if you listen to your intuition, it will never lead you wrong.

While I do think that is true, I also think that sometimes we can get a little confused by our own perception and our own fear.  So the filter that we put the intuitive messages through is the real problem.

In my own practice, I’ll find myself waiting to ask a question until I’m sure I’m ready to hear the answer, even if it’s not what I want to hear.  If we approach these questions we pose to our intuition expecting a specific outcome, or with fear about hearing what we don’t want to hear, we can cloud our comprehension of the message.

Intuition is approached best when you try to make yourself as neutral as possible.  For me, the messages come through clearest when I have no buy in, either way, and I just want to hear an answer.  This is why it’s much easier for me to read for other people than it is to read for myself. When I sit down for a reading with a client, even if I have a strong personal relationship with them, it’s much easier for me to just be a neutral vessel passing the information along. 

When I read for myself, I run into all my own worries and fears and I have to do a lot more work to stay clear as I’m reading.  For daily check ins, or just random curiosity questions, it’s no problem. However, if I come to my cards or sit in meditation with something that is really bothering me and heavily weighing on my heart, I really struggle to get clarity.

If this happens multiple times on the same topic, that’s when I might turn to a fellow reader friend and ask for some insight.  Sometimes the heaviest topics that carry the most fear are the ones we just can’t tackle on our own. That’s why we have friends, therapists, and other readers to give us perspective and guidance when we are too anxious to get a clear answer.

So often when people tell me that their intuition led them wrong, and they start to explain how, I can hear the moment in the story where they got the message, and applied it to their own expectations.

There is nothing wrong with this, it happens to all of us.  There are some things it is just hard to be neutral about.  

The problem arises when we don’t take responsibility for those expectations, and instead start to assume our intuition is broken, or our intuition led us wrong, or worst of all, assume that means we aren’t intuitive at all.  Because intuition is an intangible thing, and very hard to measure, the moment that we feel like it isn’t working for us, we have a tendency to completely write it off and say that it doesn’t work.

I can’t tell you how many times I started pulling cards for myself and would just keep pulling until I got something I liked as an answer.  Yes, I teach tarot and yes. I still do this. I am human.

The point is to be aware of your expectations when you go into meditation or when you sit down with your cards.  Pay attention to how you are feeling. You don’t have to empty yourself completely or be some kind of robot in order to get the answer but it’s good to be aware of the filter you are putting the answer through.

So how can you become more aware of that and bring more clarity to your intuition?

I recommend a quick writing exercise to help make you aware of what might be coming up for you in a given moment.  Sit down with a notebook or journal and take a few deep breaths. Place your left hand palm face up on your left leg and your right hand on your heart and take ten deep slow breaths.  Then open your eyes and write answers to these questions.

What fear is coming up for me right now?

What happens if that fear is confirmed?

What do I hope will come through when I tune into my intuition?

What do I think will actually come through?

At this point, I will often ask any guides or angels to help me get clarity and answers that are for my highest good.  This can be very helpful to do if you want to start to develop a relationship with your guides or if you are just still feeling very emotional.

Then, take a few moments to sit in meditation or pull some cards.  However you like to tune into your intuition, take some time to do that.  When you are finished and feel like you have received some guidance, write it down.  Then take a look at how the information you got compares to your fears and expectations going in.

When I do this exercise I can normally see where I might have given into fear by how much what I wrote matches up with the question about fear.  I can also see if I was able to stay neutral.

You can do this several days in a row and just see if your perception changes.  You can also look back over time and notice if you see a pattern.

Having a written log of what fears come up can serve as a great way for you to start to acknowledge your own patterns.  Sometimes we are so unaware of our default setting but when we see the same message written down over and over we can start to learn that pattern and over time we might not need to write things down at all.

I hope this helps you become more confident in listening to your own intuition and more compassion for yourself when you are struggling to get a clear answer.  You don’t have to be neutral all the time. You can use this exercise to start to work through emotion without it clouding your comprehension of intuitive messages.  

Finally, If you are looking for help honing your intuitive gifts, The High Priestess Embodiment Digital Workshop is still open for enrollment.  There are only a few spots left in this first time offering and it will only be available until Wednesday, February 19th at 11:59 PM ET. If you enroll in this course you will have access for the lifetime of the course as well as access to all future course updates.

This course is an introduction to connecting with your intuition.  It is an entirely self-paced workshop. I firmly believe that intuition is for everyone. In modern society, we are so overstimulated that it can be easy to think we have no access to intuition at all.  We start to doubt ourselves and our instincts. This course will provide you with practical tools to connect with your intuition and make decisions with confidence.

If you are tired of giving your power away to self-doubt and have always wanted the tools to start to explore your own intuitive gifts, this is a great place to start.  Invest in yourself!  If you want to join the workshop you can sign up here.

If you have any questions or feedback on the course or on today’s post please feel free to reach out to me via email sheila at starsagespirit dot com.

© Sheila Masterson 2020 All Rights Reserved

Design Your Own Intuition Guidebook with the High Priestess Embodiment Digital Course

White Mountains – New Hampshire

Last week I launched my first ever online workshop.  It’s an adaptation of my High Priestess Embodiment workshop that is designed for participants to work at their own places to build their own intuitive language.  This has been equal parts thrilling and terrifying.  

Putting my own thoughts and ideas out there opens me up to criticism and imposter syndrome and it’s taken a little bit of procrastinating, a little bit of coaching, and a little bit of getting cues from my own intuition to give me the confidence to do so.

Almost a year ago when the idea for this course started bouncing around my head, I knew it was important for a couple of reasons.  I wanted to normalize listening to intuition. I wanted people to see that it is something we all have in our own way. Finally, I wanted to make intuition more accessible and less lonely.

When I first started having these experiences I felt incredibly alone and isolated.  I spent most of my life not really understanding that something different was happening for me, and feeling a bit alienated from people who I thought were having the same experiences but were not.

So when I got older and everything intensified, I wanted to give other people like me who are just starting out on their own path the tools to start to figure out how intuition works for them.  All I wanted in the beginning was a guidebook.

I wanted to try to logically approach something that is pretty esoteric, and that is only just starting to be studied by science.  I wanted to create a hypothesis, test data, and come up with some sort of proof for myself.

I read book after book from other mediums and intuitives trying to understand the exact path forward.  Some of them said to meditate for an hour a day, some had elaborate exercises and some suggested the only way was to find a one on one mentor.

I was frustrated.  Like so many of us, I was too focused on trying to find the “right” way to approach my particular gifts that I ignored what I knew in my heart to be true.   I lacked confidence in my own ability and I wanted someone to help me prove it to myself. I wanted a clear set of guidelines and rules to follow. I wanted a path forward.  I also wanted to feel more aligned with my own deeper desires in life.

What I have learned is that the book I was looking for, the manual for intuition doesn’t exist.  

Intuitive gifts are so individual.  The reason I couldn’t find the instruction manual I desired was because there is no one way forward.  There are many. 

This is why I developed the High Priestess Embodiment Workshop, was to give clients the tools to start to build this structure for themselves.  I wanted to save people from the loneliness and confusion I felt. I wanted to give them exercises to start to notice their intuition in their body as well as where they feel fear or anxiety.

Our culture is so focused on achievement.  Nothing is more revered and rewarded than hustle, multi-tasking, and constantly striving for something new.  It’s easy to feel completely out of touch with yourself and what you want in your life. It’s easy to be brainwashed into wanting what society, family, and friends tell you to want.

Usually we spend time striving towards these things and then are confused when we get them and don’t feel satisfied.  Have you ever experienced this? Obsessing over something thinking that achieving it will make you feel accomplished only to get it and still feel like it’s not quite right?

I designed the program for anyone who has an interest in getting back in touch with their intuition.  Intuition is like a personal super power. It empowers us to say “no” easily to things we don’t want and gives us clarity on what we do.  It allows us to release the doubt that society programs us to have and really learn to trust that we are making the right decisions for our personal situation at any given moment.

The exercises that I put into this course are the exact exercises I used to grow my own intuition and feel more confident in my readings, and also in decision making in my life.  They are designed to help participants to create their own version of a playbook and provide them the confidence to experiment and start to notice how and when intuition shows up in their daily lives.  They are designed to build trust in yourself.

I will also be providing answers to common questions that come up from those taking the course.  Each participant will have the opportunity to ask two questions which will be recorded and posted in the course for all to have access to.

The course itself is entirely self-paced.  It can be done all in one sitting, and it’s roughly 90 minutes of content plus the follow up question/answer recordings.  All participants will also have access for the lifetime of the course, so any updates that i do to the course in the future will be included, as well as all future question/answer recordings from future releases.

This course isn’t about me handing you all the answers.  It’s about you gaining the tools to start searching for your own answers and recognizing solutions when they come up in your own daily practice.

It brings me so much joy to watch students connect and start to put the pieces together for themselves.  I love watching them gain confidence and celebrate their wins.

If you are interested in signing up you can sign up here.  If you have any questions you can feel free to reach out to me via email sheila at starsagespirit.com

© Sheila Masterson 2020 All Rights Reserved

Connecting to Intuition in Emotional Moments

As someone who is highly emotional myself, learning to listen to my intuition during times of emotional turmoil has been one of my biggest challenges.

So often this is the work I am facilitating with tarot and Reiki clients.  In moments of upheaval, when they feel disconnected and overwhelmed, they come to me to help them sort through the chaos and tune in to their own inner knowing.

So how can we learn to connect even in these emotional moments when our ego is screaming at us, and we are operating entirely from a place of fear?  How do we quiet that noise and learn to listen on our own, without guidance from someone else?

I would love to give you some kind of shortcut here, but the truth is that it takes practice and time to learn how to build this muscle. The following are some ideas to get your started.

Write it Down

The easiest and most concrete way I have found is to write it down.  When I feel frustrated or desperate, or let down, or inadequate, I sit down with my journal and write out what I think is going on. I keep going deeper and deeper until I reach the root of what is really bothering me.  

That might look something like: I’m mad at my partner because they don’t pay enough attention to me.  Going deeper: I’m hurt because my partner forgot something important, and it makes me feel like they don’t value me.  And a little deeper: I’m really sad because I don’t feel like I’m being supported by the person that matters to me most and I’m worried that means they don’t love me.  

Just seeing the words on paper forces you to confront and deconstruct some of the fear that comes up. This exercise is about finding the truth underneath the story we tell ourselves.  If you’re not sure if you’ve gotten to the root of the issue you can keep asking questions but try not to be too hard on yourself. Sometimes the real breakthroughs come from going back over your notes later.

Come to Your Cards

There are a lot of tarot teachers who say that you should always come to your cards with a clear mind and when you are calm.  I respect their opinions but I also think that really takes away from one of their most valuable functions: self-reflection.  

Tarot is a great way to reflect when you are having an emotional moment.  The cards themselves don’t have feelings or bias. They give us something outside of ourselves to look at.  You might find yourself saying the same thing over and over when you see them and that itself can be clarifying.

In this moment you will notice the story you are telling yourself and sometimes this is downright comical.  Sometimes I’ve pulled four cards in a row before I realize I have basically said the same thing to myself in four different ways.  Or even more hilarious is, I don’t like the card I pull, so I pull another one and it has a VERY similar meaning. This has happened to me so many times.

Find Moving Meditation

So many people come to me and talk about how they can’t meditate when they are stressed.  I get it.

Sitting quietly with your thoughts when your anxiety is cranked up and your brain is going a mile a minute is almost impossible. 

This is the perfect time for moving meditation.  As a yoga teacher, that is my go-to but there are so many other options if yoga isn’t your thing.  Tai-Chi, walking meditation, or even just riding your bike and looking around at all the scenery can be enough to work the agitation out of the body.

Stillness does not equal calm, so don’t fall into the trap of thinking you’re weird because you can’t sit in meditation when your brain is racing.

There are so many ways to come back down to earth when your emotions are running the show.  Along with all of these techniques, I have found that just noticing the narrative of my emotions helps me to tune into my intuition.

Any time I have a fear-driven narrative come up, I know what I’m hearing is emotion and ego.  It’s usually loud and has a spiralic quality to it. One negative thought leads to another and then another until I’ve gone ten steps down the rabbit hole with my anxiety in full force.

In that moment I notice the noise, but look for the little bit of quiet underneath.  That is where intuition waits to be tapped into and called forth.  

I’m very excited to announce that I’m bringing my High Priestess Tarot Embodiment workshop to the internet later this Wednesday, February 5th.  This is a workshop I have only offered live in person and after a lot of requests for it, I’ve decided to make it available as an online course.  

This course is a combination of tarot discussion, yoga, guided meditation and journaling.  The purpose of The High Priestess Embodiment Course is to put you more in touch with your own intuition, to build your trust in yourself over time, and to help you tune in to your inner guidance systems in moments of stress and transition.  It is open to everyone: male, female, or non-binary. The High Priestess is not about masculine or feminine. It’s about our ability to connect to deep inner knowing and learn to trust ourselves.

If you want to be the first to know about the release, sign up for my email list here.

© Sheila Masterson 2020 All Rights Reserved

Embodying The Tarot

Over the past year I have been working on a series of classes all about embodying the energy of certain tarot cards.  This has brought about a lot of questions, like how do you do that, and what does embodiment even mean.

Today let’s talk about tarot, how to embody a certain card and bring its energy into your life, and why this is helpful.

Starting off, I wanted to talk a little bit about why tarot.  Tarot cards are a tool for divination and reflection. Traditional decks contain 78 cards, each one representing experiences we all go through as humans.

My perspective on reading tarot, which is different than a lot of other readers, is that the cards provide a valuable reflection of our internal landscape.  I see the cards as an intuitive tool for guidance. Reading for me becomes less about the cards themselves and more about what they bring up when you reflect on them. 

Personally, I can read people without the cards. A fellow reader looked at me during a reading a few months ago and remarked, “you don’t need the cards.”

I know this but i also know that it helps people to see a visual representation of what they are going through or struggling with.  The cards provide that touchpoint for people. (I also find it freaks people out less when the cards tell me something. People need a reason why or how a reader knows things.)

The cards can give a glance at what is in store as well but that information is usually less relevant than the reflection.

So what about embodiment?  

Embodiment of a card is a way for us to bring that energy into our life in a more tangible fashion.  When we think about a certain card we can come up with some ideas of how to get inspired by the energy or feeling of that card, but it can be hard to actually make it feel real to us.

In the embodiment classes I have been teaching, we use discussion to get familiar with the energy of the card.  Then we talk about how that applies to everyday life. Then to really embody the card, we do a yoga flow inspired by the energy of that card, we take some time for meditation on some questions around this card and how we can bring it into our everyday life in a more present way.

And why would we want to do this?  

There are a whole myriad of reasons.

I will use the High Priestess card as an example. The High Priestess card represents our ability to tap into our own inner knowing and guidance. The card teaches us about our connection to our intuition and how to trust that what we are hearing is right for us.  

Talking about the card is great and can be so helpful to bring new ideas to mind, but the embodiment piece is where it really starts to shift from just an idea into a practice.  When we start to look at moving intuitively, we start to feel our own internal guidance system switch on. When we meditate on where in our body we feel it when we feel aligned and guided by our intuition versus where we might feel our ego trying to lead us astray, we start to physically recognize the signals our body provides.

The whole experience helps bring the energy of each card to life. Instead of just hearing an idea, it gives you ways to bring it into your daily life.

There are lots of ways to embody the energy of a card. Maybe you’re feeling unstable while moving or starting a new job; you can work with the strength and fortitude of the Emperor card. Perhaps you’re trying to cultivate more patience and understanding your family; you could work with the Temperance card. You could even use The Star Card to help you move through trauma and start to heal.

You can meditate on each of these cards and start to feel in your body.  So with the Emperor card,you would bring to mind moments where you felt confident and strong, and then bring that feeling into your body.  How did you feel physically when you felt confident and strong? Where do you notice that feeling in your body? How long can you sit with that feeling?  Maybe over time you can hold on to that feeling longer.

You can even combine cards and say something like, “I really want to cultivate patience with the Temperance card but I also want to put people in their place when they need it”; maybe by using the Strength card.

The possibilities are endless.

I am very pleased to say that next week, I will be releasing my High Priestess Tarot Embodiment class as an online workshop that you can take at your own pace, in the comfort of your own home. This class offers the opportunity to learn all about intuition. We cover how to embody the High Priestess card, how to notice the physical cues that intuition brings up in our bodies, and how to strengthen intuition with practical exercises.

This class has been one of my passion projects over the past year and I am overjoyed to be bringing it to life in a new format. All the exercises and lessons in this workshop are tools I use in my own practice and development and my goal is to give everyone a playbook for working with their own intuitive talents.

I am very excited to add this option to my offerings after a lot of requests to bring back  this offering for people who missed them the first time around.  

You can join my email list here to be the first to get the deets about the release. Keep an eye on social media over the next week for a sneak peek.

© Sheila Masterson 2020 All Rights Reserved

How to Calculate Your Card of the Year

If you follow a lot of witchy folks like myself, you’ve probably heard people saying that The Emperor is the card of the year for 2020.  We use numerology to arrive at this card (I will show you later in this post how to do it).

My interpretation is that the Emperor is kind of like the theme for the year  As a collective we will be focused on how to build new structures to stand the test of time. We will be looking at our daily work and routines and restructuring to make space for new things.  This might mean letting go of some of the activities that were integral parts of your daily life for years.

Whether that means letting go of friendships or just seeing certain friend groups less frequently, stepping into a new role in your life  (like mother/father, husband/wife, or boss) change, even change that we are looking forward to, comes with growing pains.

You might be holding on to your old ways of doing things or trying to force new areas of your life into old systems.  When you find yourself being met with resistance, pause and pay attention. Notice that resistance and ask yourself if what you are doing is necessary or if it is even helpful.  Sometimes we hold on so tightly without really asking ourselves why.

So how can we find some assistance in handling this change to our structural systems?  We can use the medicine of our own Card of the Year.

In order to calculate your own personal Card of the Year, you just need to add together your birth month, birth day, and the current year.

So for example: My Birthday is August 20.  So I would calculate 8+2+0+2+0+2+0 = 14 

So my personal card for the year is Temperance.  If you know me and follow my tarot journey, you know that is hilarious for me, because while Temperance is a lovely card, I struggle with finding moderation in my life.

If you get a number higher than 22, just add your numbers together again.  So 23 would be 2+3=5. (Also important to note that 22 is the Fool card). Once you have your number you can find the corresponding major arcana card:

1 Magician

2 High Priestess

3 Empress

4 Emperor

5 Hierophant

6 Lovers

7 Chariot

8 Strength

9 Hermit

10 Wheel of Fortune

11 Justice

12 The Hanged One

13 Death

14 Temperance

15 The Devil

16 The Tower

17 The Star

18 The Moon

19 The Sun

20 Judgement

21 The World

22 The Fool

*a note on The Fool Card : The Fool is technically numbered 0 or 22

So why bother to do all of this?

Your personal card can help give you more perspective for your focus for the year.  So for myself, I might look at the Emperor card and see how I’m setting up structures and systems to make my business a success.  I’m in the midst of the hard work of getting established and growing, which is wonderful, albeit, not always exciting work. But it is necessary work.

So when I look at Temperance as my personal card, I can bring that energy into these systems I’m trying to build.  For me, the Temperance card is always about giving myself some grace and learning to be patient. I have a tendency to throw myself into things 150% with little regard for sleep, normal hours, or moderation. 

The combo of these two cards is offering me guidance.  I need to find a slower pace than I will want to while building my business.  In order to establish something sustainable, I will need to move more like the tortoise than the hare.  I am slowly setting up systems for myself while being wary of my tendency towards burnout. I will need to make self-care not just a priority, but one of the weekly, if not daily, scheduled items on my list.

This is something I have known for a while but seeing it in the cards reinforces for me how important it is for me to have structure.  When I don’t have structure and a schedule I will simply work until I drop.  

It takes a certain kind of person to see this and think “Dammit, now I have to take care of myself!” but that’s just how I am.  That’s also how the tarot is. It will bring you to what you need, exactly when you need it.

I know I am not the only entrepreneur who struggles with this proclivity to over-work.

But enough about me and my own experience.  What about you? 

Now that you have your cards how can you figure out what that means for you?  Here are a few journaling prompts to get your on the right track.

How can the energies of these two cards work together?

What is your general attitude towards building structure in your everyday life?

How does your Card of the Year apply to self-care and prioritizing yourself, before you get too busy to do so?

How can your Card of the Year help you achieve your biggest goal(s) of 2020?

I would love to hear about your experiences.  Please feel free to share in the comments or via email.  I enjoy hearing your insights.

© Sheila Masterson 2020 All Rights Reserved

Daily Medium Life – A Reluctant Medium Follow Up

Nine months ago I made my first blog post ever all about my mediumship abilities and everything I was going through.

It’s hard to believe it’s been nine months of being public.  I still get questions and weird looks daily about what it’s like so I thought it might be a good time to check in.

The short story is that although I don’t talk about it super often and my mediumship readings make up a very small part of my practice, talking to spirit is still a very present part of my everyday life.

I think that most people think that being a medium is just me walking around seeing physical manifestations of spirits all day every day.  That is not the case. In fact, it’s pretty rare that I physically see spirits. It happens on occasion but for the most part, I get a sense that they are there and then I see them in my mind.

This week was a big one for astrological movement and I felt it very strongly.  The veil between words has a tendency to thin during the full moon, so I will be more aware of spirits. They will feel more present, a little stronger, a little bit more disruptive in my daily life.  They will break through during times when I am usually able to block them out.

So for example, when I work with Reiki clients or tarot clients, I typically turn off my mediumship ability so that I’m focused just on my client and I don’t get distracted, bu this week with everything that was going on, I  was interrupted in a reiki session and also in the middle of a reading at a tarot party by very persistent spirits that needed to talk to my clients.

That is really not the norm.  I have become very good at setting my boundaries with spirits, much the way I do with people in the physical world.  When I am off the clock, I really try to be fully off the clock. (Like when I was on vacation last month and I put up my spirit “out of office”)

I hold weekly spirit “office hours” where I will be open to communication with spirit and I also open up while I’m in session with mediumship clients, but the rest of the time, I turn on my spiritual “out of office” to give myself a break energetically.

So contrary to popular belief, I’m not walking around all day every day reading the relatives of everyone I meet.  I would be totally exhausted if I tried to do that.

With so many medium shows on TV now I think people get the impression that I’m going to walk up to them at the grocery store and start giving a reading, but personally I find that to be very invasive.  Reality TV is well-edited and those TV mediums are usually filming for weeks to get enough content for a full show. They aren’t just walking around reading constantly.

Even in other energy work sessions I give, I try not to read people unless that is specifically what they are there for because it feels ethically a little weird to me, and I respect the privacy of my clients.  If a spirit is being really persistent, I will tune in and see what all the fuss is about, but I really try to respect boundaries the rest of the time.

This week was an exception though.  When I was at a tarot party, a client’s daughter in spirit interrupted our session to come through really strong to both me and her mom.  She was very persistent and even her mom could feel the energy that she was bringing. It turned out to be very healing and a really important message, but afterwards I was super tired.

On my way home, another spirit that I am personally familiar with popped into the car with me while I was driving home. I think he was trying to help me out because I was so tired and I had a long drive, but everytime he comes around he makes my car smell like cigars (which I hate).  We had a nice little spirit chat before he popped out again and let me have some peace.

What I’ve found very interesting is that mediumship brings out my perfectionist side.  I don’t like to do anything that I’m not good at and mediumship is incredibly hard, and subjective.  There are so many different ways spirits communicate and sometimes I have to switch how I am communicating with a spirit on a dime because they don’t like to talk the way I usually do.  Spirits communicate in so many different ways and because of the way they communicate, with basically no context at all, doing a reading for someone is incredibly vulnerable.

I’ve also found that as an industry, people tend to lump all psychics and mediums in with the ones who are frauds.  This is not totally fair, Every industry has their share of frauds but for whatever reason, when it comes to metaphysics, people are especially ready to call every practitioner a fraud.  

This can be so frustrating to me since there are plenty of bad lawyers, doctors, financial advisors but you don’t find people having the same hesitation about hiring them.  I know the healing power of this work.

I’ve been so discouraged at times, and as a bit of a perfectionist myself I’ve considered giving it up several times, just to let myself off the hook.  What’s funny is that every time I do something weird will happen to convince me otherwise.

The first time, I had five client sin a row come in for reiki sessions who had a spirit with them who was desperate for me to deliver a message.  Then, I tried again and had clients come in for tarot only to have very strong spirits trying to communicate with them as well. Then this week, I said maybe I will just take a mediumship break for a bit to give myself a little more space in my schedule for some of the new work I’m doing, I had three different people reach out for readings and then that spirit show up at my tarot party to talk to her mother.

So I have to say, “OKAY, SPIRIT, I WON’T!”

I just wanted to give you all an update since I haven’t talked about it on the blog here for a while. I welcome any questions about this or anything else I do.  I’ll talk to you all next week.

In other news, this week is the absolute last call for 2020 Year Ahead Tarot Readings and New Years Release and Initiation Reiki and Tarot Combos. These are potent offerings that are perfect for you if you are trying to plan your year for maximum efficiency. They will be coming off my offerings list next week to make room for some new things that I am very excited about, so keep your eyes out for some new stuff coming next month.

Staying Motivated and Making Time for Spiritual Practices in 2020

I’m fresh off a trip to Florida to visit some family and ready to tackle 2020.  This time of year when we launch into Capricorn season we tend to have a lot of energy and ambitious, no-nonsense goals.  

That’s why so many people head into the year with super aggressive New Year’s resolutions.  I watch year after year in my yoga classes how January will have classes packed to the gills only to slowly diminish towards the end of the month, and balance back out to the usual in February.

So why is it so hard for us to set manageable goals?

I’ve been reading a lot about this over the past few weeks with trying to manage my own resolutions and set goals that make sense to me.  I think a big part of it is that we have a limited amount of motivation and it’s easy to burn out when you use so much motivation all at once.

Another reason is that a lot of people don’t know the “why” of their goal.  

So let’s look at the typical New Year’s resolution, I want to make healthier and more conscious meal choices.  

While this is a great goal, what is the actual motivation for doing it?  Are you just trying to lose weight? Does it sound good to you? Is it something you’re hoping you will get around to eventually?

When we focus on things that sound good to us, that we haven’t been able to find the motivation for yet, it’s important to ask yourself why it hasn’t been a priority until now.

A few years back I wanted to try to get into running.  I absolutely did not enjoy it, but it sounded good to me.  I wanted to learn and I thought that was enough and for a few weeks it was.  But, after about a month I was running out of steam.  

I really took some time to ask myself why I was doing this and why it was important to me. Then, I reflected back on a study I read about how just 30 minutes of cardio exercise three times per week was enough to significantly reduce cancer-risk.

That was it for me. I set a small goal and my running grew from there.  After about three months, it was normal for me to run three hour long runs a week.  I maintained that for several years and I really learned to enjoy it. It was a commitment I made for myself and my health.

I’m not telling you all this to toot my own horn, it’s really about finding your own motivation.

We tend to set some ambitious spiritual expectations for ourselves as well.  My advice is to start small and figure out your why.

Spiritual practice doesn’t have to look like meditation every single day.  Maybe that’s not feasible with your schedule. Maybe you say you won’t go more than 3 days without making at least five minutes of meditation.  Maybe you vary your types of meditation so you stay motivated and find your favorite type.

You can also find ways to include this in your everyday schedule.  

I wanted to bring a journaling practice into my life but I could never find the motivation to be consistent.  About three months ago I committed to just five minutes every morning and five minutes every night. That’s ten minutes a day and because it is such a short amount of time, and it’s built into my schedule as soon as a wake up and right before I go to sleep, it’s easy for me to stay with this habit I’ve built.

Give yourself some time this week to really focus on your “why” for your resolutions or goals.  Really break down why each one is important to you so that when your motivation wavers, you can come back to your practice with renewed vigor and excitement.  

This doesn’t mean you need to sit down for an hour and do breathing exercises or deep meditation.  Just give yourself the gift of twenty minutes of quiet and ask yourself a couple of questions. Maybe even write it down so you remember.


I hope 2020 brings you and yours a lot of joy and good fortune.  I have a lot of exciting offerings coming up over the next three months so make sure you are paying attention to my weekly emails (you can get on my email list here) and keep an eye on social media.

How to Clear a New Tarot Deck

Quick and easy ways to clear your tarot deck.

Last week I got a new tarot deck and a friend asked me what you do to clear it.  She had heard a lot of the weird rules that seem to have made their way all over the internet.

I wanted to write about it and clear the air. 

So many resources say things like your first deck needs to be gifted to you (it doesn’t). People need to touch the cards in order for you to read them (they don’t). Or that you need to sleep with a new deck under your pillow when you first buy it (you don’t…unless you love it so much that you really want to).

This is a question I get a lot from newer readers and it brings up a good topic for today’s blog.  

How do you clear a new tarot deck?

You can start just by taking the deck out and separating the cards a bit and looking at each one.  This is a great way to get acquainted with a new deck. It’s rare that you get to see every card before owning the deck so this is a wonderful way to see if any of the art trips you up or if there’s any card depictions you really love.  

Once you feel confident that the cards are not too stuck together and that you’re pretty comfortable with the art,  you can break out whatever type of clearing items you use. If you like to burn cedar, or sage (I like mugwort, or lavender, but you can use whatever is in your lineage).  If smoke clearing is not your thing, you can use Selenite to charge your deck or a Selenite wand to clear all sides of the deck.

Then, you can hold the deck to your heart and set an intention for it.  So for example, if you are just planning to read for yourself you can say something like “May this deck bring guidance and clarity for my highest and best good”. If you are planning to read a lot for other people, you can set the intention of clarity for the highest and best good of yourself and others.

Then, you are good to go. Just give the deck a very good shuffle to get started.

If you want to take things one step further, you can interview the deck to get an idea of what kind of work it might be good for.  

For example, some people find that one deck works better for reading for other people than it does for reading for yourself.  You may also find that certain decks are great for light, joyful readings but not as good with handling heavy emotional energy.

So how do you go about interviewing your deck?

Meditate with the deck in hand and focus on some good questions to ask.  Ask your guides and angels to send through the clearest messages to trigger your intuition.

Then write out three to five questions to ask your deck.

Some questions I have used are:

What are the strengths of reading with this deck?

What are the limitations of this deck?

What can I learn from this deck?

What is the best way to work with this deck?

What best represents the energy of this deck?

What card defines our collaboration?

These types of questions will give you a good idea of what strengths and limitations a certain deck might have for you.

I do actually have a standard Smith-Rider Waite Deck that I only use to read for myself or teach people. It doesn’t work as well when I use it to read for others.  It works best if I just use it for myself, so I do. (You will notice I post pictures of this deck but never for card pick days).

In between uses you can keep the cards in your bag or somewhere you will have easy access to them. There are a lot of rules written up about storage, too.  I think it’s nice to store them in a safe place if you can but if you are going through a lot or you travel with your deck, it’s not as practical. When I’m not using my cards I usually keep them on a shelf in my reading room with a crystal of some kind sitting on top.

Everything I have given here is just a suggestion of what to do. Ultimately you can follow your own intuition as to how to best break in a deck for yourself.

I hope this post helps bring some inspiration and direction to your practice and I would love to hear about it in the comments.  Please feel free to share your experience or what methods work best for you.

Working with the Cycles of the Moon

We are finishing out 2019 with a bang with a new moon solar eclipse in Capricorn. This got me into a big discussion a few days back with a friend about what we can expect out of the end of the year. It’s sure to be an exciting and lucky new moon and also a great time to set intentions for not just the new moon but the new year. You can expect to feel more connected to your intuition and feel very creative and inspired.

This conversation about the new moon solar eclipse got me thinking about how working with the cycles of the moon is a great way to bring intuitive awareness into your life. One of my goals for 2020 is to be more aware of how the moon affects me as an intuitive person. I really want to notice how I feel with each phase and what sign it’s in.

You may have heard before that in general the new moon is a good time to think about the kind of energy you want to bring into your life. It’s a time of intention setting and manifestation.  

The full moon on the other hand is a great time to release.  To let go of what is no longer serving you and to reflect on what you were working to manifest.

I had the good fortune to do a Full Moon Circle with a bunch of rad ladies back in October. It was amazing. We drank warm apple cider, braided hair, did makeup, read cards, ran around a fire cackling and threw into the fire what no longer served each of us. It was a beautiful experience.

What a lot of people don’t realize is that there are so many ways to work with the moon and you might feel more aware or more productive at certain moon phases.  Your birth moon phase indicates your approach to life and integral parts of your personality. (If you want to find yours you can get it here https://www.moongiant.com/birthday-moon/)

I thought it would be fun to talk a little bit about what personality traits each moon phase has.

New Moon – Enthusiastic excited ready to hit the ground running. New moon babies tend to be a bit more impulsive and are all about new beginnings but may struggle a bit with follow through and finishing what they start.

Waxing Crescent – Owning the same energy and enthusiasm as those babes born under the new moon, waxing crescents tend to have a little bit more consideration for the outcome. They tend to be open to exploring but with a more cautious approach.

First Quarter – These people tend to be very confident, passionate, and don’t mind taking risks. They have a tendency towards striving and may feel like they are always trying to prove something to themselves and to the people around them. They tend to be good leaders because they can easily rise to and overcome challenges.

Waxing Gibbous – Waxing Gibbous people tend to be very organized and prepared and always on a journey of learning. They are into personal development and exploring what makes them tick. They are much more into planning and creativity and are also working to perfect their work, their relationships, and themselves.

Full Moon – These individuals tend to feel most at peace when they are in a relationship. In fact, most of their lives are spent finding and growing relationships because that is where they tend to cultivate the most learning and growth. Much of their experience is about learning to live in the tension of finding harmony between opposing forces and ideas.

Waning Gibbous – Those born during this phase tend to be messengers and teachers whether through writing, researching, or speaking. They tend to break with tradition and forge their own paths forward and their legacy is to spread the word of their message. They also tend to enjoy travel and may struggle to stay in one place for a long period of time.

Third Quarter – These individuals are always striving to find their purpose. Often they may find themselves in mid-life making a drastic career or lifestyle change that baffles those around them. They may abruptly change course driven by instinct and urgency to find new forms of expression and new belief systems.

Balsamic – Finally our balsamic moon babes tend to be good at leaving. They come into this life as those who are ready to complete major cycles and tie up karma from past incarnations.  These people are usually loners and selective about the company they keep. A few close friends are plenty for these individuals. Success tends to come later in life after a lot of reflection and they tend to pass on wisdom of experience combined with a clear vision of the future.

So that’s the basics. With astrology it gets much more complex based on what sign your moon is in and what house but, I think it’s so fascinating that you can see personality traits just from the moon phase that you were born in.

I was born under a waxing crescent moon and I would say that description fits me very closely. To say that I’m a cautious explorer is just about as accurate as you can get. Leaving the career I’ve been in for the past twelve years was very out of character for me and has been an adventure in learning to be patient and not knowing what is coming next.  

Since this is my first year in business, I don’t really have a blueprint and it’s been challenging to try to allow things to ebb and flow until I figure it out. That said, I am nothing if not enthusiastic about all of my work and about having the privilege to be able to take this time to build my business; to best refine, express and share my gifts and purpose.

If you have been here the whole time or just found the blog, had a reading or a reiki session with me, liked or shared a post, been a cheerleader or a listening ear for me to talk out new ideas, or just a happy blog reader along for the ride, I just want to say a profound thank you. I am so grateful that you are here.

Also a very big thank you to my dear friend, J, without whom, you would be reading many more typos and errors in these posts.  She generously edits this blog every week and has been there rooting me on every step of the way.  

Wishing all of you a very happy holiday season and a healthy and safe new year.  Keep your eyes peeled later this week for a bonus email post to prepare for the new year. This is an exclusive for those on my email list so if you haven’t joined yet, you can below.