Last week we talked all about the more practical ways to set boundaries for the holidays. Today we are going to talk all about energetics and the more woo-woo side of managing your energy through the holidays.
When I first started experiencing my energetic gifts of intuition and mediumship, I was a mess. I didn’t know where I ended and other people began
The following are the real techniques I used to clean up my act and set good boundaries.
First, meditation and mindfulness. Now, I know that no one wants to hear that they should meditate. In the beginning, anytime someone suggested this to me I immediately went to “SCREW YOU! YOU TRY SITTING WITH ALL OF THIS STUFF! MEDITATION IS THE WORST!” I would roll my eyes so hard I was afraid I would dislocate my eyeballs when someone suggested this. But then I tried it.
I learned something interesting. The reason that meditation felt so unbearable is because I was sitting around holding everyone’s energy and everyone’s emotional baggage. When I sat down and got quiet i would feel spirit stuff, and friend’s grief, and my boyfriend’s tough day, and my own feelings but everything was all mixed up in this giant energetic ball that I wanted to shove down and ignore.
When I pushed through the initial discomfort, I gained so much clarity. With guidance from spirit, I was able to start sorting through and releasing the things that weren’t mine. This process made it so clear to me what MY OWN ENERGY felt like.
I CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH HOW IMPORTANT THIS IS AS AN EMPATH.
I start with this because it is the absolute most important thing you can do for yourself. It is the tool that all other tools come from. I use this sorting meditation all the time. I have a free download of it when you “opt in” to my email list (you should get a pop up on this page to join so check your pop-up blocker).
I highly recommend starting there but if you’re certain that meditation is not for you, or maybe just not right now, I do have a few other options.
Another great option is to try a grounding exercise.
My favorite is a white light and grounding exercise. It is a simple visualization exercise that only takes a minute or two. You can do it in the middle of a party or sneak away for a second and clear out anything that doesn’t work for you. It’s inspired by something I learned in “medium school” and I use it in a lot of my workshops and in between clients. I also use it after any family events or holidays parties.
Start by just closing your eyes. Imagine white light coming in through the crown of your head. You can imagine it’s God, universal energy, angels, whatever speaks to you. This light comes through the crown of your head, fills your whole head and begins to move down through the neck and through the rest of your body. As it moves through it gathers anything that is not yours. Any energy you’ve picked up from other people, any stress or anxiety that isn’t yours and it presses it all the way down your body, through your feet and then passes safely through the ground. It moves all the way to the center of the earth where it is turned into more beautiful white light and that goes out into the universe.
Then I imagine roots growing down from my feet into the ground. The roots spread, growing wider and more intricate and growing deeper. Through those roots you pull energy, nutrients and even knowledge from your ancestors back up into your body. Draw up so much that that energy comes all the way back to the crown of the head. These roots give your energy, structure and establish your connection to yourself and the earth.
Sometimes during this quick visualization you might feel some tingling in the body or hot and cold sensations, or swirling. Don’t panic. That’s just the energy moving around your body and bringing you back to balance.
All in all this short visualization only takes about a minute. The more you practice it, the faster you will get. They best part about it is that you can do it anywhere.
Just this quick exercise of coming back to yourself after being exposed to so much energy will help you start to identify what is yours and what isn’t.
Finally, mantra can be a great way to ground yourself and begin to bring awareness to your own energy.
This was one of my most frequent tools when I was going through my spiritual awakening. Particularly when I felt a spirit trying to get my attention and give me a message; I got very anxious so I started repeating this mantra over and over to myself.
Sky above. Earth below. Me right here. God above, below, around, within, keep me safe and calm.
Every time it brought me back to my body and it stopped any panic that I felt coming up. It also brought awareness to my physical body.
Obviously you don’t need to use the same mantra, you can make your own and I encourage you to do so. Mantra is a great way to bring focus to your mind when it’s spinning out. It interrupts the stories we tell ourselves and brings us back to reality.
Every technique I suggested above is something I use personally in my own life and something that has helped me to bring awareness to my own energy field and reinforce boundaries. I truly hope these techniques help you as you approach the holiday parties both personal and professional.
My hope is that these techniques enable to to not just survive, but THRIVE this holiday season!
I would love to hear about your experience with using these in the comments or you can email me and tell me all about it.
I also wanted to give a huge THANK YOU to everyone who has been giving feedback on how these techniques have helped and to everyone who signed up or gifted the New Years Reiki/Reading Combos to a friend. I’m so excited to work with all of you.
In addition, If you are looking to do something fun this weekend, I will be at Aim High Studio (3015 W Germantown Pike, Norristown, PA 19403) in Collegeville, PA Saturday morning (11/30) giving readings, selling little energy-clearing bundles and gift certificates for small business Saturday. I would love to see you there.